It’s no secret that recently I had my heart broken. Don’t get me wrong, with every ounce of me I still wish it hadn’t happened, but I know that at the end of the day, he was no where near good enough for me. There were so many things that went wrong and resulted in the inevitable apocalypse of our relationship. It sucks but we move on and I hope through my turmoil I may be able to offer someone a little bit of help if they’re ever in a situation like I am in right now. So here’s 10 signs he’s just simply not good for you. Disclaimer: I haven’t experienced all of these in my life time, but I’m a 22 year old woman, so I know my way around the world. But if the shoe fits, wear it sweetheart. Also, these are only my thoughts, they may not be true for you, but over the years these are some of the things I stand by now when it comes to relationships. Thanks guys!
#1. He’s inappropriate.
Now this is a very subjective one. For me, I always try to be the best most polite version of myself whenever I am out in public. After all, I am my own brand and I want everyone I meet to see what I really am. I don’t like it when people swear, belch, are sexually inappropriate or anything like that in public. I find it embarrassing and it really turns me off.
#2. You have to walk on egg shells around him.
No one likes to have to think about every word that comes out of their mouth. It’s exhausting. If you’re finding yourself doing this, he’s not the one for you. Simple as that.
#3. He lies, cheats and/or messes you around.
No brainer, get out of there. A liar/cheat has to have an amazing memory and a lot of gall and from my experience many men don’t and they’re usually dumb enough to think they can get away with it. Don’t do what I did and ignore the lies and the bitter truths just because you love them and you’re afraid of losing them. You’ll be much better on your own.
#4. It’s all give and no take.
If you find yourself driving around after him, always going to wherever he is, making decisions and ultimately spending 99% of your time together making him feel like a prince then something is going wrong. If he’s oblivious to everything and doesn’t see anything wrong with that, maybe you should rethink your ideas.
#5. You’re not his priority.
I’ve been a culprit of doing this and I’ll admit that whole heartedly – but if he’s putting plans off to spend time with the boys all the time, or because he’s tired, you’re not his girl, you’re just some girl. Don’t get me wrong, you shouldn’t expect to be number one all the time because everyone has commitments (don’t be a b#tch either if your significant other has major commitments) but don’t take the person for granted.
#6. You can’t communicate with him.
Communication is one of the most fundamental parts of a relationships, one I suck at. But if you’re willing to sit me down and put effort into getting me to understand, I’ll listen. I always send good morning/good night texts to my significant others, because I know I have busy days, but AT LEAST they know they’re the first and the last thing on my mind, but most people are too lazy/self indulgent to want to try and if they’re not willing to try, just say bye Felicia.
#7. You can’t trust him.
This one is simple. Just leave. You’ll regret it if you don’t.
#8. You’re miserable.
If you ever, ever feel whilst you’re in a relationship “I don’t want to deal with him” then maybe you should rethink the relationship as a whole. Maybe you’re better off friends, maybe you shouldn’t speak for a while. Sometimes relationships don’t work and that’s okay – being miserable is not part of love.
#9. He belittles you.
Now, this can be a difficult one and sometimes I doubt men even realise what they’re doing. I’ve had a lot of “you’d look great if you worked out” or “maybe we shouldn’t eat out again” and it makes me feel like crap and it makes me feel miserable and therefore makes that individual no good for me. So, if he makes you feel like crap by talking down to you, bye boy.
#10. You think he’s no good for you.
At the end of the day only us as individuals know our relationships. No one can tell you what to do or say when it comes to our own personal lives, but if you’re ever thinking “I don’t think he’s right for me” then that’s probably because he isn’t. If there’s doubts in your mind, they’re usually right. I wish I’d listened to my gut because I wouldn’t be in the situation I am now that’s for certain.