A girl boss. A queen. A diva. A rock star. Whatever you want to call them they are killing the game. Every female out there knows one and probably wants to be one, I know I’ve grown up wishing one day I’d be a strong successful woman.
Nowadays, society is geared toward pushing women to become their best selves so obtaining success for women is a lot easier (even though it isn’t easy) than it use to be. I am thankful for everything women have done for us over the years and now I feel like it’s my turn to make the future even better for the next generation.
Now, don’t get me wrong, I wouldn’t class myself as a girl boss. Not yet anyway. I’ve read the books, I’ve worked my butt off, I sell myself as a brand everywhere I go all for that hashtag. A girl boss is a woman that’s extremely independent, wise beyond her years, hard working, and, most of all, motivated. She kills it in every aspect of her life, she is always putting herself first and working to improve. The only thing I think I’m missing is being wise, but if I crack that, I’ll be there in no time.
So from a nearly there, soon-to-be girl boss, here we go, tips on how to be a #GIRLBOSS in your 20s.
#1. It’s all about you.
In your 20s you are the most important person. Everyone has different ideas of success. Career, family, love, it doesn’t matter, if you’re doing what you want and need for your future, you’re killing it. I don’t want to settle down until I’ve graduated and have a killer career, I don’t even want to think about it because it’s not something I want. I don’t want other people in my way, because I’m determined to kill it and I don’t want any distractions.
#2. The early bird catches the worm.
I didn’t realise how important this was until a few years ago: I use to wake up at 11am and just let the day drag and not get nothing done. Most days now I’m awake at 8am, I’ve gotten myself into a routine and I can get so much more work done. Also, because I go to bed around 11pm now, I get a decent amount of sleep and I don’t feel so sluggish anymore. Win, win!
#3. Dress for success.
The old saying “dress for the job you want” is very true. I’m the girl that dresses up to go to Tesco and I don’t care. I feel amazing and I look incredible and there’s nothing anyone can say to stop me. By feeling more confident in your everyday you can begin to feel more confident in your work environment to become that girl boss of your dreams.
#4. Ignore the hate.
Not everyone along the way will be rooting for you to succeed. You may have people in your life right now that are willing you to fail and all you need to know is that they don’t matter. The only thing that does matter is how you show them they’re wrong. Push harder and get better results because they know nothing.
#5. Don’t be afraid of rejection.
I remember when I first started my degree I was happy staying in the classroom, studying and not taking my eyes off the prize, but now I realise if I had stayed in that mindset I wouldn’t be where I am today. I want to go into PR, so I took the leap and I emailed every PR agency in Cardiff and I got work placements and internships set up for the next year. I restarted my blog. I emailed brands and got my name out there because I realise now that without the effort and without being afraid of rejection I can achieve so much more. Don’t get me wrong I sent 15 emails to companies in Cardiff and only 4 of them responded to me – rejected? Thanks, but your loss.
#6. Work out/eat healthy.
Now, I’m not the fittest or the healthiest person in the world. But I watch what I eat and I work out everyday (run 2k every morning.) I still love to binge on chocolate when I’m watching Netflix as well as eating out AT LEAST once a week – I love food. Working out and eating healthy can keep you feeling good, looking good and girl bossing your life away!
Now, I don’t mean go do a college course or get yourself a degree. I mean little things. Watch the news, read books, invest in things that you enjoy and learn about them. By educating yourself on things you like you can understand them even more and by having a greater understanding you can reach higher than ever before.
#8. Save, save, save.
I’m not the best saver, I love shopping, I love buying clothes and make up and food (especially food.) But every time I get paid I ALWAYS put £50 away. I save up throughout the year and by the end I have a decent amount – now don’t get me wrong, if I want to splash out on something, I do. Think of how much money you could have if you saved a small amount every time you got paid? I know I’d be a millionaire.
#9. Don’t let the bumps drown you.
Somewhere along the line things are going to go wrong, it’s inevitable, it’s life. But what makes you who you are is how you react to the negativity and how you are able to move on from it. Time will test you and your job is to prove how strong you are when it comes to problems. If you can overcome adversity you’re killing the game.
#10. No dreams are too big.
A lot of people I know don’t believe in themselves enough. They underestimate how good/smart they are and they end up putting themselves down when they need to be shouting from the rooftops how good they are. You are always going to be your own worst enemy, no questions about it – but if you can stop that little voice in the back of your end, you will be unstoppable. No dream will be too big because with hard work, determination, you will get there in some shape or form.